Thursday, January 8, 2009

Relationship with someone that is legally blind

Its never easy having any relationships. And it's even harder to have one when you are legally blind. The person you are with needs to be understanding, because there will be things that you will rely on them for, and there will be things that you cannot do because of your vision.

For example, as much as you can get around in public transportation, chances are you will never be able to drive and the other person would have to be the driver always. Same goes for looking for roads or directions, as good as I am with directions, I am unable to see the road names and it is impossible for me to help especially if its somewhere I've nver been.

Somethings can't be shared because you aren't able to see, like if you're on the road and they see osmething funny, odds are you won't be able to see or know waht they are talking about. There are actions that come naturally to those that can see that they forget or do not realize how hard it can be for those that are legally blind. There may even be times where the sighted person is frustrated because they feel they always have to do certain things.

But no matter what the issue is, don't be afraid to talk about it. Misunderstandings happen when things are left unaddressed. The key to any relationship is open communication, mutual respect and understanding, and love. The same grounds apply for a relationship with a visually impaired individual. Sometimes, you just need to be patient and loving, and the rest will fall into place.

2 comments:

  1. Thank you Jen for sharing your thoughts on Stargardt. I have a daughter (Megan) who is now 13 and was diagnosed with Stargardt about 1.5 years ago. Her vision is still good - but as time passes I know things will change. Reading your blog and knowing that others out there are living life and doing fine is absolutely WONDERFUL! Keep up the great work and keep believing in yourself. With heartful appreciation, Amy

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  2. Dear Jen,
    I found your blog to be very interesting because I can totally relate. I recently broke up with my girlfriend of neaarly 6 years partly due to my condition. I think that being open from the very beginning is very important along with a lot of communication. I'll be honest, I'm actually hesitant about getting into another deep relationship with concerns about getting hurt again. All I do know is...that I'm gonna be up front about my condition if something were to develop with someone down the line. I'm not leaving this comment to strike fear into those reading this, I just wanted to express how I felt and what I experienced.

    I'm not sure if you're currently in a relationship, but if you are...I'm happy for you. Keep up the good work, I'll be dropping by every now and then.

    Brian

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